Weak Men

So I found out today that Rudy's internet and cable have been cut off because he hasn't been paying his bill. There are two main things that I think about this...

First of all, how am I supposed to get in touch with him now? He changed his phone number a while back and did not give me the new one. Granted I've never asked for it, but it wasn't offered either. The only way I had to get a hold of him was through email. Now that's gone. I don't know where he lives and he's losing his job. The only option I have is for his friends or family to relay a message for me. Fantastic.

Secondly, what the hell!? How is this even possible? When we were buying a house together his parents gave 'us'/him $6,000 for a down payment. He never returned it to them...so where'd it go in 3 months?! Also when we were buying a house I paid off $1400 of his debt, leaving him virtually debt free. He was supposed to pay for the inspection and put $1000 earnest money down, his check bounced. (he never paid me back) His work has been cutting his hours for a little over a month now; gradually working him out, it would seem. Why hasn't he found another job? I found a job and my job field was VERY limited because I had to find somewhere I could take the baby after he comes. He can get ANY kind of job doing ANYTHING! So, what’s the problem?

Let me get this straight…he had 6 grand, I had nothing; he had a full-time job, I lost my job and was unemployed for a month; he only has to worry about himself, I'm pregnant and figuring out how to take care of a baby on my own; and he’s the one getting shit cut off for not paying his bills, while I’m making ends meet and moving forward. Why can't he get his shit together, when I'm pregnant, broke and becoming a single mom and I have my shit together? I have SO much more to deal with than he does, and I'm making it work and even still reaching out to him and offering support for him! What's his deal? What is it with weak men!?

I don’t know which came first…is art imitating life or is life imitating art? Think about it. Weak, stupid, helpless, inept men are EVERYWHERE on TV. Think about every TV show where there is a husband and wife. The Simpsons, Family Guy, According to Jim, King of Queens, Everybody loves Raymond, That 70’s Show, Married with Children. Fat, ugly, stupid, useless men; with pretty, thin, strong women who take care of everything.

Now think about commercials. All of the commercials have women doing everything and being everything and the men are almost always compared to the children. There is one where each kid is looking for something and calling out “mom, where’s my…” Then the husband is seen doing it too. Like women have to do EVERYTHING and men are just large children. Another commercial is about a family with triplets, it’s a bank commercial, and at the end the wife says about the husband “He’s really just the fourth triplet”… NO, HE’S A GROWN MAN!!! And he should be expected to act like one!

This is NOT acceptable! What happened to men taking care of women; or better yet being equal partners? Why has our society made it acceptable and almost expected that men are just going to be fuck ups? And women are expected to be beautiful, smart, organized, patient, loving, soft and strong, cover everything a stay at home mom does and have a full-time job outside the house to bring in money. So then what do we need men for anymore?

This is ridiculous to me! Our family units have broken down so horrifically. And the expectations placed on women today are just unfair. It’s too much to ask any ONE person to handle, man or woman. There is a reason it takes two people to physically make a baby…because one person can’t do all of this alone. As a society I really feel like we need our families back. We need two parents in every household. And what is expected of women needs to also be expected of men!